Stress is an inevitable part of life, and parents and caregivers may experience it more often due to their responsibilities and challenges in raising children. However, there are several ways that parents and caregivers can combat stress, and manage their stress in day to day life:

Practice self-care: Taking care of oneself is critical for combating stress. Parents and caregivers should prioritize activities that bring them joy and help them relax, such as exercise, meditation, reading, or spending time with friends.

Establish a routine: Having a predictable routine can help reduce stress by providing structure and predictability to daily life. This can include setting regular meal times, bedtimes, and wake-up times.

Seek support: Having a support system can help reduce stress levels. Parents and caregivers can seek support from family, friends, or professionals such as therapists or counselors.

Take breaks: It is essential to take breaks and time away from caregiving responsibilities. This can include taking a short walk, going out for coffee, or engaging in a hobby.

Practice stress-reducing techniques: Techniques such as deep breathing, visualization, and mindfulness can help reduce stress levels. Parents and caregivers can also consider seeking out stress-reducing activities, such as yoga or tai chi.

Practice positive thinking: Cultivating a positive mindset can help reduce stress levels. This can involve focusing on the positive aspects of life and practicing gratitude.

As the author of this blog post (Nancy) I’ve been a caregiver now for three years straight!  This is a job that I never thought I’d be doing.  I’ve always seemed to take care of others, but not to this extent.  I take care of my boyfriend who needs 24/7 care after having a stroke.  If not careful, caring for someone else doesn’t leave me much time to take care of myself…but that took me a while to realize!  Being a caregiver has so many responsibilities for the other person such as distributing meds, confirming the meds have been taken, preparing meals, cleaning up after meals, laundry, chauffeur tasks, scheduling and appearances, social gatherings being a roommate, and grooming.  These are just a few of the responsibilities.

• If your person can be alone for short periods of time, go grocery shopping!  Sometimes it’s a good way to relax and listen to the overhead music.  It will give you a chance to catch your breath while still accomplishing a task you need to fulfill.
• Started an area of indoor plants to nourish the air in the home.  Certain plants clean the air in the home.  These include ferns, snake plant, fiddle-leaf fig, peace Lilly, spider plant, and English ivy, to name a few.
• Start an herb garden in the kitchen.  I use these herbs for cooking and have them under a grow light.  Basil seems to sprout easily, yet I enjoy oregano, thyme, and mint also.
• Oh! If you have space, an outdoor garden in the backyard is a nice moment of respite!
• When you clean the house put the music on and dance a little jig while cleaning!  This can be really uplifting!
• Take small breaks for yourself, especially if you are starting to feel overwhelmed or anxious.  A small break, doing some breathing exercises, and just BEING are very helpful.
• If the weather is nice I always make an effort to go out on the deck and enjoy nature.  Take the person you care for out there with you and they can enjoy it also.
• Call a family member or a friend to talk once a day.  Reaching out to others outside the home is a great way to build connections with others and avoid isolation
• Utilize and take advantage of helpers, respite care, and family members who offer to help.

Many families wrestle back and forth between group therapy and individual therapy.  Group therapy can be a valuable form of treatment for many individuals, and there are several reasons why you may want to consider it over individual therapy.

Group therapy can provide a sense of accountability and motivation. In a group setting, group members are accountable to others and can motivate each other to make progress. Group therapy requires active participation and accountability, which in return allows being part of a group can help motivate individuals to work on their issues and make changes in their lives. This community of group members provide encouragement and support to one another.

One of the key benefits of counseling groups for children is that they can help children to develop important social skills. Through group activities and discussions, children can learn how to communicate effectively with others, how to express their thoughts and feelings, and how to work as part of a team. This can be particularly beneficial for children who may struggle with social interactions, such as those with autism or other developmental disorders. Groups can be a powerful way to practice new skills and behaviors. In group therapy, group members can practice communication, problem-solving, and social skills in a safe and supportive environment.

Children may feel more comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings in a group setting, rather than in individual counseling sessions. Counseling groups provide children a safe environment to share their feelings and experiences with their peers. Groups provide an opportunity for social support and connection. When you’re going through a tough time, it can be incredibly helpful to know that you’re not alone. Group therapy allows group members to connect with others who are dealing with similar issues, learn from their experiences and gain a sense of belonging. This can help children to feel less alone and more understood, which can be especially important for children who may be struggling with difficult issues such as bullying, trauma, or grief. Counseling groups for children is an opportunity for the needed peer support many kids are missing. Children who are struggling with similar issues can connect with one another and share their experiences, which can be very helpful in reducing feelings of isolation and loneliness. Group members can learn from each other and gain new insights into their own situations.

Another important benefit of counseling groups for children is that they can help children to learn how to cope with difficult emotions. Children may experience a wide range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, and fear, and these emotions can be difficult to manage. Through group therapy, children can learn how to recognize and express their feelings in a healthy way, and they can also learn coping strategies that can help them to manage their emotions more effectively. Counseling groups for children can also be an effective way to address a wide range of issues, including anxiety, depression, anger management, bullying, and family problems. Group therapy can help children develop healthy coping mechanisms, learn new problem-solving skills, and gain a better understanding of their emotions. Groups allow you to gain multiple perspectives. In individual therapy, you only have the therapist’s perspective on your issues. In a group therapy setting, you have the opportunity to hear different perspectives from other group members, which can be very enlightening and can help you gain a better understanding of yourself and your problems and new ways of handling problems or perspectives of different experiences. The group dynamic can allow individuals to see their problems from different angles and gain new insights into their issues. Additionally, group members can learn from one another and gain new strategies for coping with their problems.

Finally, counseling groups for children can be cost-effective, as they typically involve fewer sessions than individual counseling.  Group therapy sessions usually involve several people, which means that the cost of therapy can be shared among the group members. This can make therapy more affordable for those who may not be able to afford individual therapy sessions.

For many people, group therapy can provide a valuable form of support and can be an effective way to address a wide range of emotional and behavioral issues. It’s important to note that group therapy may not be suitable for everyone and that some people may prefer individual therapy. But, group therapy can be a valuable option to consider, and it’s worth discussing with a therapist to determine if it’s a good fit for you.   It’s possible that a combination of group and individual therapy could be the best option for you.  Overall, counseling groups can be an effective way to support children’s emotional and social development.  They can offer the benefits of peer support, provide a safe and supportive environment, be effective in addressing a wide range of issues, and be more cost-effective than individual counseling.

Diversity is important in a playroom because it helps to create a safe and inclusive environment for all children. It allows children to see themselves and their experiences reflected in the materials and activities provided, and to learn about and appreciate the experiences of others. We recommend diversity in your home environment but also wanted to highlight that we provide diversity in our playrooms as well.

As play therapists, there are several ways to create diversity in our playrooms and practices:

1. Include a variety of toys and materials that represent different cultures, races, and abilities. This can include dolls and action figures of different skin tones and abilities, books and games that feature characters from diverse backgrounds, and art supplies that allow children to express themselves in different ways.   Representation is important; children should feel seen, validated, and delighted.
2. Create a safe and inclusive environment by displaying posters, paintings, or artwork that show families of different races and abilities, and signs that display messages of acceptance and inclusivity.
3. Encourage children to share their own experiences and perspectives by asking open-ended questions and actively listening to their responses. This will help to build a sense of understanding and empathy among the children in the playroom.
4. Encourage children to embrace their individuality by promoting self-expression and creativity. This can be achieved by providing a variety of materials and activities that allow children to express themselves in different ways, such as through art, writing, or dramatic play.
5. Engage in ongoing education and self-reflection to deepen our own understanding of diversity and inclusion, and model an open and accepting attitude for the children in our care.
6. Partner with families and caregivers to make sure that their child’s cultural background is represented in the playroom and that the child feels safe, seen, and heard.
7. Use multicultural books, stories, and songs with different cultures and traditions in mind.
8. Incorporate games and activities that celebrate diversity
9. Our groups are open to all clients.  Our groups allow us to create opportunities for children to interact with peers from different backgrounds and abilities.

Wintertime gets a bad rap!  Wintertime can sometimes seem like it goes on forever!  We get stuck inside and stuck in ruts of comfort that are not always good for us.  Winter can be a tough time for many of us. The shorter days, colder temperatures, and lack of sunshine can make it hard to stay motivated and positive. However, there are ways to pamper yourself and make the most of the winter months. Even though this is a time when there doesn’t seem to be much going on, when you are in your home, you can find many ways to enjoy this time of year!  It can be a cozy time of the year, a time to start healthy habits, make plans for the future, and just enjoy being! As the winter months approach and the temperatures drop, it’s important to take care of ourselves both physically and mentally. One way to do this is by indulging in some self-pampering. Here are a few ideas to help you get started feeling cozy and cheer you up!

• Fix a hot cup of your favorite beverage, grab your blanket, and sit by a crackling fire. Instead of reaching for a can of soda or a cup of coffee, try making yourself a hot cocoa, tea, or chai latte. These warm drinks can help soothe the body and mind, and provide a comforting and cozy feeling to de-stress
• Take a warm bath. Fill your tub with warm water and add in some Epsom salts or essential oils for a relaxing and rejuvenating experience. Light some candles and put on some soothing music to create a spa-like atmosphere
• Light some twinkling lights in a dark room and meditate;
• Grab your journal and jot down all that you are grateful for
• Add cozy colors to your rooms by adding pillows, tablecloths, or bright bedspreads
• Add throw rugs in areas where your bare feet hit the ground to avoid that chill
• Wear your slippers or fuzzy footies to keep your feet warm
• Add a pot on the stove of potpourri in steaming water and let the smells engulf the rooms
• Find a good book and a special reading spot.  Cozy up with a good book and a warm blanket. Whether you prefer fiction or non-fiction, there are plenty of great books out there to choose from.
• Bake your favorite cake or bread and enjoy the aroma
• Spend some time making your favorite soup and enjoy it throughout the week
• Have a binge-watching night of the show you love
• Give yourself a manicure or pedicure. Treat yourself to a new nail polish color or try a new design. Not only will your nails look great, but the process of painting your nails can be therapeutic and relaxing
• Try a new skincare routine, because cold weather can be harsh on our skin, so it’s important to take extra care of it during the winter months. Experiment with different moisturizers, masks, and serums to find what works best for your skin.
• Take a walk. Yes, we know, it’s cold outside, but getting some fresh air and exercise is still important. Bundle up and take a walk around your neighborhood. The fresh air will do you good, and the exercise will help to boost your mood.

Co-dependency is a term that is often used to describe a type of relationship in which one person is emotionally and mentally dependent on another person. This type of relationship is often characterized by codependent individuals who are unable to function normally without the other person.  A dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is psychologically dependent on (or controlled by) a person who has a pathological addiction, e.g., alcohol, gambling)-codependent.

Co-dependency can develop in a variety of different types of relationships, including romantic relationships, friendships, and even parent-child relationships. In a romantic relationship, for example, one partner may become dependent on the other for emotional support, validation, and a sense of self-worth. This partner may also feel a sense of responsibility for the other person’s happiness and well-being, and may go to great lengths to keep the relationship together.

Co-dependency can also develop in friendships, where one person may become reliant on the other for emotional support and validation and may feel a sense of responsibility for the other person’s happiness. In a parent-child relationship, a parent may become emotionally dependent on their child, and may feel a sense of responsibility for their child’s happiness and well-being.

Co-dependency can have negative effects on both parties involved. The codependent person may feel a sense of helplessness and insecurity and may have difficulty making decisions and standing up for themselves. They may also become emotionally and mentally exhausted from constantly trying to please the other person.

On the other hand, the person on whom the codependent person is dependent may feel smothered and constrained by the codependent person’s constant need for attention and validation. They may also feel a sense of responsibility for the codependent person’s well-being, which can be emotionally draining.

• Putting other’s needs above your own;
• Saying Yes when you want to say No;
• Having muddy boundaries;
• Do you feel trapped in your relationship;
• Do you avoid saying what you are thinking in order to avoid arguments?

• The first step in breaking the habit of being codependent is to recognize the signs of codependency in your own behavior. Some common signs include feeling responsible for the other person’s happiness, having difficulty making decisions, and feeling helpless without the other person
• You have to take care of yourself before you take care of others’ needs.  It’s important to practice self-care, taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.
• You respond rather than react to others.  Don’t immediately respond but give yourself time to think through what someone is asking of you.
• Be patient with yourself and try to give yourself mercy, not being as hard on yourself if you slip up.
• Keep your boundaries clear and think about how you want to be in the future. Learn to set healthy boundaries, for example, learning to say “no” when necessary and not allowing others to take advantage of you.
• Focus on developing a sense of self-worth: One of the main reasons for codependency is a lack of self-worth. Focus on developing a sense of self-worth and self-love, so you are not dependent on others for validation. This includes, not letting others bully or treat you badly.  Recognize when a relationship is not healthy and do something about it.  Work on it with that person or walk away.
• Therapy or counseling can be very helpful in breaking the habit of being codependent. A therapist or counselor can help you understand the root of your codependency and provide you with tools and strategies to break the habit.   Or joining a support group can be a great way to connect with others who are also trying to break the habit.  A group can be a safe space to talk about your feelings and the challenges you encounter.