Do you struggle with self esteem? You are not alone, people in all countries, for 1000s of years have struggled with self esteem / self worth.  Improving the way you feel about yourself, plays a vital role in having a more fulfilling life.

Five suggestions to help lift you up!

Stop Comparing 

Each one of us is unique in our own way. We are all different, from our outside features (hair, complexion, build) to our inside features (personality and abilities).   Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are.  Be proud of them, and work on using them to your best advantage.

Taking Control

This is your life, take charge! Set goals for yourself, of where you want to be, what you want to be doing – and work towards them! One small step at a time.   It’s tempting to allow others to dictate what college you should go to, what career you should go into, what area to live in, what house to buy, what kind of car to drive….but ultimately, the decision is yours – make one that you’re comfortable with! Be confident in the choices you make, and stop seeking the approval of others!

Avoid being “Debbie Downer”

Have you watched the Saturday Night Live Skits about Debbie Downer?  When we are in a funk, it’s easy to become her! It’s sometimes second nature for some to fall into the pattern of selectively paying attention to negatives in our lives.  What’s happened today that was good?  Up front spot at Wal-Mart?  Make it to work with out sitting in traffic?  Did you have a good hair day?    Try to pick out the positives of each day!

Accept a Compliment!

Has anyone told you before, “I love your outfit!” or “You did a great job on that presentation!” or another compliment that you rejected stating, it wasn’t a big deal or something similar to that? Instead of defending why you aren’t worth the compliment, simply respond with “Thank you”

Surround Yourself with Positive people

Your environment, can make a huge difference in your mood.  If you surround yourself with people who are encouraging, it’s easier to feel good about yourself. Having a supportive network of family, friends and colleagues can help you get through a rough situation or lift you up when you have a bad day.

You are not a mistake, you were designed for a purpose, stop looking to others to find self-worth, look within!

Best Wishes,



Jennie Wilson is a child and adolescent therapist. She holds the credentials of a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor